What is a RAD Sib?

A neuro-typical brother or sister of a child with RAD

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Why they need your support

RAD Sibs are hurting. They are on the front lines of the RAD battle, witnessing the destructive behaviors threatening their family. While everyone is caught up with the needs of their sibling, they are left to cope with the chaos and meet their needs themselves. RAD Sibs often feel pushed aside and suffer in silence- wanting to avoid causing more “problems” for their parents. 

Many RAD Sibs also suffer trauma at the hands of the traumatized sibling with RAD. They may, along with their parents, show signs of PTSD.

Parents of RAD Sibs

If you’re a RAD parent, recognize the reality that your non-RAD child needs support. See beyond the “I’m fine” facade and don’t assume everything is okay. If you are at your limit and simply can’t provide that support right now, find others who can. Reach out to friends, professionals, and family members. 

  • Spend one-on-one time doing something they enjoy
  • Check in routinely and practice the H·E·A·R method
  • Look for signs of PTSD and get them [and you] professional help, if needed

Family and Friends

Extended family and friends can help by providing judgement-free support to the parents. Make yourself available to spend time with the child or teen without their high-needs sibling. Small actions and gestures of support can go a very long way for both the RAD Sib and their parents.

  • Spend one-on-one time doing something they enjoy
  • Invite them with you on activities or trips
  • Attend their special events and/or offer transportation

H·E·A·R them

Have time set aside

Have time set aside to talk with your child. This may seem impossible when you also have a child with RAD, but try to make it a priority. You and your child will feel better when you take time to connect.

Empty the room

Make sure the child with RAD is not near and cannot sabotage your conversation. Find a quiet and private place to talk where your non-RAD child feels comfortable. Put aside devices and distractions and give them your undivided attention.

Actively listen

Your child may not open up right away. When they do, you may find some of what they say difficult to hear. Validate what they are feeling and don't interrupt or try to solve their problems right away. Focus on building trust and connection. ​

Repeat

Make this a recurring event! The more you H·E·A·R, the easier it gets. Keeping regular check-ins will help build a stronger relationship and improve communication. It will also empower the neurotypical child to come to you as new issues arise or as old traumas bubble to the surface.

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Therapies for RAD Sibs with PTSD

Trauma Focused - Cognitive Behavior Therapy
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR)
Neurofeedback
Breathing and Heart Rhythm Techniques

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The information on this site is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.